Five Steps! Let’s get you to experience a vaginal orgasm.

Do you have any myths about orgasm? Here are five steps to unlock the mystery of pleasure! In addition to vaginal and clitoral orgasms, did you know that the amygdala (the emotional center of the brain) also affects the occurrence of orgasms? Let’s start by exploring your body with the Pleasure Sense Starter Poses!

Are orgasms difficult?

As far back as 1976, the famous American gender authority Hite Research pointed out that nearly 70% of women are unable to achieve orgasm through intimate vaginal sex, and some women never experience it and don’t even know what the peak of pleasure is. The Oxford Dictionary defines the peak of pleasure as a woman’s vagina being engorged with blood and moist with arousal; Dr. Kinsey, one of the leading sexologists in the U.S., puts it this way: “When physical and mental reactions peak, the accumulated tension in the nerves and muscles is unleashed. I think of it as the ultimate pleasure of the body and mind going from tension to relaxation.

Physiologically, the female pleasure response is characterized by increased blood pressure, skin tremors, rapid breathing, flushing of the face and neck, rhythmic contraction of the vagina, and some people say temporary disorientation and blurred vision, which is a testament to the ancient saying, “to want to die”!

The sensual experience is like a roller-coaster ride down a heartbeat, and we have even heard it described in detail: “Every sensory nerve is taut and waiting to be plucked, like a surfer’s anticipation of a huge wave, or like the moment when a champagne cork bursts into action. …… The blood rushes through the body, bringing on a tingling sensation, a fleeting but mesmerizing shiver”. This illustrates the rarity and beauty of the pinnacle of female pleasure.

Common types of pleasure are divided into clitoral and vaginal orgasms, and the process of achieving them requires breaking through multiple constraints, such as the strength of desire, the level of excitement, insufficient foreplay and negative experiences; if coupled with the partner’s erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, etc., it will produce apathy, resistance and other emotions, and these memories will be stored in the amygdala of the brain (the emotional memory area) to form a pleasurable obstacle.

The low incidence of vaginal orgasms stems from the fact that most women prioritize emotional connection over physical contact and are less likely to self-explore and autonomously pleasure themselves; this, coupled with a poor partner, dramatically reduces the likelihood of orgasm. The ability to enjoy pleasure is an untaught skill growing up, and the peak experience requires the same knowledge and skill.

Due to the dense nerve density of the vaginal canal, the mysterious G-spot is located at the upper end of the first 1/3 of the vagina: after completely penetrating the palm of the hand with both fingers facing upwards, the second knuckle bends upwards at 90 degrees and touches the folded area approximately. Another hotspot, Point A, is on the upper edge of the inner wall of the anterior cervix, and there are many more, such as Point C, Point U, and Point P. But in fact, these are just for reference, because sensitive areas vary from person to person, and you need to work together with your partner to discover the exclusive location.

Five Steps to Practice

Explore the body

The purpose of exploring the body is to allow those who have never experienced an orgasm to first understand the structure of the private parts of the body. Prepare a mirror, look carefully at the genitals and tell yourself that this is part of the body to accept it (separate from sex), you can also try to touch the labia to do the initial pleasurable sensations.

Second, sexual desire arousal

Then come to the intimate behavior before, focus on the desire to provoke, the use of blindfolds with fingertip sweeping, feathers seemingly touch, so that the skin senses to receive passionate signals, and ask the partner to make a provocative sound. Note: Do it on your own (independent exploration) or with your partner (intimate interaction).

Sexual foreplay

The foreplay time is 2-3 times the actual behavior as much as possible, first create an exciting environment, through the whole body caressing to push the desire to a high point, pay attention to the way not to stimulate the clitoris, with fingers or toys shallow into the vagina slowly pumping, try to find a special comfortable stimulation point. Attention to lubrication and cleaning, do not forget to give the need to lust guidance and sincere praise.

Sexual Process

(A) Sitting position, this is a more durable position for men, and you need to feel the warmth of each other’s embrace.

(B) modified missionary position, with the genitals into the vagina at 1/3, the body slightly tilted back to make the upturn to stimulate the G-spot area, or use the fingers 90 degrees to press with the vibration; the back can be deep into the A-point area, some women feedback will produce a wonderful sense of knowledge stripped away.

*Highlighted tips: the exclusive location need to explore personally.

Five, sex after the game

Don’t rush to clean up after the end, independent exploration of the female please lie down quietly and breathe deeply to recall the experience, intimate interaction with the partner can simply clean up after embracing warmly, through the words of affirmation to strengthen the wonderful memories – this will deeply affect the cycle of desire and pleasure in the follow-up.

Final Reminder

Physiologically, the vagina is less sensitive than the clitoris, and it’s the emotional component (eyes, touch, verbal affirmation) that is at the heart of most women’s fulfillment.